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Do you have an fulfilling sex life? Do you achieve sexual satisfaction? Have you lost that burning sexual drive? Have you “lost that loving feeling”? Our busy, hectic, technologically advanced lifestyle (think emails, online gaming, internet shopping, Facebook, teleconferencing, Blackberries, Nintendo WII and Playstation today demands more of our time, energy and focus than ever before. In combination with the demands of family commitments, the desire to stay fit and look good, and the pursuit of money, we are hard pressed to perform at all levels, including at home in the bedroom. So there is no surprise that more and more people are finding difficulties in rekindling that love flame, getting in the mood for love making, achieving an orgasm or “swing into action” on demand. There has been extensive research done on how to improve sex life, surveys on how often couples have sex, whether they are sexually contented, frequency of sexual activity by age group, etc. Popular research has several conclusions. They claim that 50 million people in the world do not enjoy a satisfying sex life. They also tell us that one in five men in the US suffer from erectile dysfunction, while four in ten women in the US have low libido or inability to reach orgasm. The most important finding of all however, is that more and more people today have some form of challenge or another when it comes to their sex life. If you desire to improve your sex life (like we like to stress, there is always room for improvement!), here are some tips to spice things up. We generally do not recommend jumping headlong into quick fixes, magic pills, miracle potions or herbs, not because they do not work, but because some cures like Spanish Fly (believed to be an aphrodisiac) are inherently dangerous and harmful, and can cause bodily damage. Instead, there are actually many simple, natural ways to improve your sex life. Tips to improve your sex life 1. Variety: Well, as they say, variety is the spice of life. Change your sexual routine so that both of you get excitement from doing it at different times (it doesn’t always have to be in the bedroom at night, the mornings and afternoons are good as well) and different places (try the kitchen, the study, the garden, the sofa, on top of the dining table, inside the cupboard, be creative!) 2. Try different positions! Bored of your missionary position yet? You might not, but your partner may already be sick of engaging in the same old position time and time again. Find an exciting range of the positions you never thought possible here: - The Complete Illustrated Kama Sutra
- Sex 365: A Position for Every Day
- 101 Sex Positions: Steamy New Positions From Mild to Wild
- The Best Sex Positions Ever!
- The Position Sex Bible: More Positions Than You Could Possibly Imagine Trying
3. Quickies: There is nothing like a fast and furious, intensely passionate love making session to get your morning going before heading out to work, injecting that little bit of fun before heading out to meet friends, or a confidence boost before heading out to a job interview. Keep an open mind and don’t be afraid to try out things for fun 4. Clothing: Sexy lingerie and lacy numbers always help to make the guy’s heart pump more quickly, so ladies do think about investing in some eye candy for the guy. Guys who want to do the equivalent can look at designer underwear or something fancy (use your imagination!). Nice, sexy clothing can make you look sexy, feel sexy and exude that sexuality and sense of confidence. Here are some options: - Exotic wear, sexy costumes, lingerie
- A stunning array of sexy lingerie
5. Aromatherapy: Aromatic oils help both of you to relax, enhance your senses and get into the mood. There are different types of smells available so you can take your time to explore and find the right smell for the right occasion, find aromatherapy products here. 6. Getting fit: Think better fitness and the ability to keep going through the night. Aerobic exercise is good for improving stamina and stimulating blood circulation, while almost all forms of exercise helps you to lose fat, build lean muscle and look better 7. Eating well: A balanced diet with energy giving foods is important if you want to be able to perform at the highest level. The act of having sex is quite a rigorous physical workout so you would need fuel to keep you going. Click here for more on foods that help increase sexual desire 8. Whisper sweet nothings: Remember how you used to say romantic things to each other when you first started dating? Well, its time to revive some of that niceness to rekindle the romance. Here are some ideas: - Things Men Say: Good, Bad, Naughty, and Nice (A to Z)
- 101 Things You Should Never Say to Your Spouse
9. Reintroduce romance: Lost that loving feeling? Try to reintroduce romance into your relationship. Dress up and go out for a romantic candlelight dinner (when was the last time you did that?!), invite your partner to a movie, go dance the night away, take a short relaxing beach holiday, buy little presents, leave love notes for each other, flirt with each other by sending SMS messages with your cell phone, buy a spa resort package for two, cook dinner together – there are so many romantic things out there you can do to jumpstart your sex life 10. Use props: Think masks, sex toys, edible underwear, chocolate, blindfolds. Or go a step further and think fantasy: play whips, leather clothing, nurse uniforms, pretend play handcuffs, role play – the options are almost limitless! - For toys, games and more, click the image below
11. Sleep early and enough: Getting enough regular sleep is clinically proven to regulate hormonal cycles that keep sexual desire at a healthy level. Most of us already know by now how tiredness, late nights and insufficient sleep is detrimental to our ability to get aroused and achieve orgasm 12. Cut yourself off from the rest of the world: This includes the kids, the grandparents, relatives, your cell phone, laptop, Blackberry, emails, Facebook and blogs. This gives the couple undivided, personal time to each other 13. Reduce workload: One way to get more energy and time for sex is to do less of other things, and that applies for housework chores or work alike. Outsourcing some activities could be a good alternative (childcare, getting part-time help to do the housework, ordering groceries online, going to a car wash, etc). Helping each other out is another good way to free up more personal time and energy 14. Environment: Invest a little time in making it more conducive for sex and see the positive impact immediately. Use candles, dim lights, aromatic oils, perfume, light music, sexy music, nice sheets, and other little things you can think of 15. Music suggestions - Sunday in bed: Sexy Sounds for Lazy Lovers
- Sexy Mix USA
- Sexy House Music
16. Your bed: Make it as comfortable as possible, give yourself enough space to roll around, additional pillows, anything that can improve comfort and induce desire to get close. Explore further and you will find that good pillows and Egyptian cotton thread bed sheets for example can make a world of difference 17. Keep your spirits high! Economic recession, financial issues, bills, the mortgage and daily expenses can cause arguments and unhappiness. Easier said than done, but staying positive and keeping issues out of the bedroom helps to avoid impact on sexual activity and performance 18. Talk about it: If both parties are comfortable enough to speak with each other about your sex life, then it might be good to do so. Focus on how each other is feeling, and on potential solutions, not go on about what you dislike about each other’s habits, attitudes or inclination 19. Medical drugs: Some drugs like those that combat hair loss, and antidepressants also cause a reduction in sex drive. Always ask your doctor for any side effects to the drugs you are taking, and if it affects your interest in sex then ask for possible alternatives. Click the link below to find out more
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THE BENEFITS OF SAFE, MONOGAMOUS SEX 1. The “feel good” effect: Simply put, sex produces hormones which make you feel good, reduce depression and improve self-esteem – enough said 2. Stress relief: It relaxes you and your mind, and improves circulation 3. Pain relief: Believe it or not, the hormones (endorphins) released during sex can help to relief pain! And for ladies, sex eases menstrual cramps 4. Good physical workout: The act of having sex burns calories and is a good workout in itself. Ladies, it helps flatten tummies, firm buttocks and improve posture, and there are almost zero side effects from it! 5. Reduce cholesterol: It helps improve the good to bad cholesterol ratio and reduce total cholesterol count 6. Increase oxygen flow: Helping to oxygenate cells and keeping your heart and other bodily functions healthy 7. Boost your immune system: Builds antibodies and helps you fight colds and flu 8. And a whole host of other benefits including improved bladder control, better teeth, reduced risk of heart disease, improved sense of smell, better sleep and improved digestion If you believe or know you have medical problems related to sex, including erectile dysfunction, inability to achieve sexual orgasm, etc, it is best to seek professional medical advice before trying potentially harmful medication, alternative medicines, techniques or exercises. Find a doctor online here.
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